Dear Husbands – No, You Don’t Deserve Extra Praise
Dear husbands of the world, I have some home truths for you, which you may not like hearing. The biggest truth is your children are your responsibility too.
From All Wives Out There…
When it comes to household responsibilities, it has traditionally fallen onto the woman. Why? Because decades ago women stayed at home and had children. It was their role to be the homemakers while their husbands worked.
Well, times have changed and this is why husband’s mindsets need to change.
Housework Is Your Responsibility Too
When doing housework around the house, you are not doing it to help your wife. You are doing it because you live in the house and make a mess too. So, if there is a mess, clean it.
Cleaning is your responsibility just as much as it is your wife’s. Do not expect extra praise or think you are doing something out of the ordinary when cleaning.
Similarly, don’t wait to be told to clean. If it’s dirty, clean it up. Your wife is exhausted from working too, so this isn’t an excuse not to help out.
It Isn’t Babysitting If They Are Your Children
On the days you stay at home with your own children, you are looking after them as their father.
This is part of the responsibility that comes with being a father. You are not “babysitting” them. Babysitting relates to children who are not your own.
So, when your wife works or has a rare night off, do not expect praise for looking after your own children, they are your responsibility too.
When you put the children to bed, you are not doing it to help your wife out. You are doing it because they are your children and need to be put to bed each night.
This is part of the responsibility you signed up for when you chose to be a father. Remember, your children are your responsibility too.
Women Shouldn’t Do Everything Always
When you do the grocery shopping, you don’t deserve extra credit. You do it because you need food in the house as do your children. If food is running low in the fridge or the pantry, write a list, grab the grocery bags and go shopping.
When your wife comes home from a hard day at work, don’t demand praise for tidying up the house while she was away. She does it all the other days when you come home from work and you say nothing, so you deserve no more praise than her.
When you spend one day home with the children, don’t tell your wife how hard it was or how tired you are. She does it too, so she is aware of how hard it is.
What husbands need to realise is that for every job you see your wife doing, there are 10 more jobs you don’t see her do. She never expects praise because she considers it her role.
You should too.
Most of all, because you were born male, this doesn’t give you automatic rights to do less. You do your equal share, that’s your role too.
Signed tired, frustrated, exhausted wives of the world.
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