How To Change Your Perspective On Your Body
Women are our own worst enemies looking in the mirror we see all our flaws. We focus on what we perceive to be our “bad” points and wind up totally ignoring everything that is beautiful about us. What we need to do is to totally change the way we think and learn to look at our bodies through men’s eyes.
Our Self Sabotage
When we look at ourselves and see stretch marks, cellulite, fat thighs and an untoned belly. Looking at our reflection we criticise our boobs, butt and imperfect skin. We sabotage our self-esteem because we are told by mainstream media that men want waif-thin women, with a perfect tan, perfect hair and not an imperfection in sight.
However, in reality, this isn’t what men really want. All men are different, some are legs men, some like boobs. Some men like skinny women, others like women with thick thighs and big butts.
Most of all though, men don’t necessarily find the “perfect woman” attractive. Men don’t look at a naked woman in front of them and say “No sorry, too much cellulite.” Men look at a naked woman in front of them and see perfection.
While we as women think we look horrible, not wanting to get naked in front of a man, what he sees is the total opposite. Men don’t focus on women’s imperfections, in fact, in most instances don’t even notice them.
They don’t see the stretch marks, the freckles, the too-pale skin. They don’t think your boobs are different sizes or your tummy too fat. My husband for example like what he refers to as “ghetto-booty.” While I think my butt is too large, he sees a beautiful, curvy woman.
We layer on our make-up, too scared to walk out of our home without our faces painted. But in reality, men don’t notice. If they see an attractive woman, that’s all they see.
We hate the fact that, after having children, our tummies are no longer washboard flat. We try to hide our bodies and are self-conscious around our partners. When in reality, men just see a stunning woman whose body gave birth to his beautiful children.
Social Media Reality
Look through Instagram and you will see millions of pages of “real women” not “perfect” women, with men commenting on how gorgeous they are. What we might see as imperfections that no-one could be attracted to, the comments by men show that this just isn’t the case.
Take another example, Marilyn Monroe is widely considered as one of the sexiest women to ever live. Marilyn was curvy and voluptuous. Her tummy wasn’t toned and yet men adored her and indeed, still do. At some point, the media decided skinny was best but this isn’t what real men truly want.
Let’s take the social experiment show “Love Island” for example (stick with me here). There are several attractive women and men who are put together in a house, in the hopes of finding love.
One of the girls who entered was a 6 foot tall, blonde model labelled a “bombshell.” Yes, she was attractive and yes she is exactly what mainstream media want us to believe is the epitome of “hot.”
Despite this, not one of the men in the house admitted they were attracted to her. Enter another woman who was curvy, shorter with bigger thighs and a bigger butt. All the men thought she was stunning and chased this girl instead.
It puts into perspective that what the media want us to believe is the “ideal” woman is not indicative of what real men actually want. What we are trying to strive to be is not what men, in reality, actually find attractive.
What we need to do is to look at our bodies through men’s eyes. Cherish our bodies for what they are, beautiful, unique and imperfectly perfect and learn to focus on all that makes us beautiful, inside and out.
We need to strive to be the best version of ourselves we can and stop striving to be something the media tell us to be. It will make us all happier within ourselves.
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